如果我说 爱我沒有如果

A couple of weeks ago, my mom sent me a quote through email that almost was lost amongst the warnings not to drink milk and pictures of Holland that someone conveniently place in a powerpoint for those not fortunate enough to go. It went something like this:

若爱,请深爱。若放棄,请彻底。等待,本身是一个错误。不要轻易放棄本不该放棄的,也不要固执的坚持不该坚持的

Which roughly translate to:

If love, love deeply. If giving up, do so completely. Waiting is inherently a mistake: do not easily give up on things you should not give up and do not stubbornly pursue things you should not pursue

A nice statement, of course, but with nothing actionable. What are the things you should not give up? What are the things you should not pursue? If these things are defined by other people – should they be the ones defining your dreams? If these things are defined by yourself – isn’t it vacuously true? Wouldn’t you only give up things you feel are no longer worth it? Isn’t our self-perceived laziness just some generalized way to describe our shifting wants and shifting desires?

So at the end of the day, I think this statement is only meaningful when you’re stuck – some guiding principle for that moment in which you have no idea where to turn. And to that end, its pretty crappy at that. It will only strike you when that moment comes, and until then, you won’t know whether you’re considering something in camp “do not give up” or camp “get the hell out.”

But, to be honest, in writing this, I had hoped to draw some inspiration from this statement – an epiphany to take me out of this Schrodinger cat state I’m in. However, now having convinced myself it doesn’t work that way (one does not simply walk into realization) and having accepted my fate of remaining in limbo for an extended period of time, I will ask You a question You most likely will not answer for me:

错过就过 你是不是会难过?

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